Autistic and Trying to be Happy

Autistic and trying to be happy. Happiness is something that I keep hearing a lot about’ but are you happy?’ and ‘do what makes you happy’ but here’s the thing…


I am a natural people pleaser. I care a lot about other people’s happiness and have never really cared for my own. I love to make other people happy and I put others first all the time. But my own happiness? That’s much harder to navigate and for me…and something that is difficult to see in myself. I am someone who struggles with Alexithymia so I cannot always put into words how I feel or what I am feeling inside. This makes happiness very difficult because I don’t actually always know what happiness ‘is’ if that makes sense? Like how do you define a mood?


That was a bit deep. Anyway…what I am getting at is that I am trying to be happier as an autistic person and do things more for my own happiness. I have a lot of very random autistic struggles that seem to pitch up out of nowhere (and I know so many of you too do). It’s flipping hard to be happy when you seemingly cry for no reason or become overwhelmed at the slightest thought, feeling or sense not being filtered properly.


I am still trying to be happy with who I am because I constantly have this thought that I am a ridiculously complex individual. But I think a lot of us are. And that’s what makes us who we are… and super interesting human beings.
I’m off to go and find some little moments of happiness. I hope you can do the same too.


(I’ve now said the word happy to many times it’s starting to feel weird and sound different…wah!).

2 thoughts on “Autistic and Trying to be Happy

  1. Happiness equates to conformity and masking all over again at some point. It reminds me of a GP who to me “well, until you just said that, I’d have thought you were depressed”. Crying doesn’t mean you’re unhappy. Maybe just overwhelmed or something else entirely. But that’s a superpower too! Don’t succumb to some NT definition of feeling and behaviour

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