Hi everyone – hope you are all doing okay. Back in February I wrote a blog post on my own struggles with Dissociation and Depersonalisation, I find it really helps to write down things I’m going through (so if you fancy reading that here is a link). I thought I’d do a drawing as I know so many people deal with this daily and i think it’s important to educate others on what it’s like to live with.
My struggles started towards the end of 2020 when I had a one weird moment of disassociation. Then it started it happen more, Iād have sudden moments where Iād disassociate briefly for a few seconds. So to describe the exact feeling I experienced I would look at my arms in front of me and not feel connected to them whatsoever. I was initially quite freaked out by the randomness of these moments but they then became more frequent and started to not seem so new.
It kept happening when I was brushing my teeth. It was like looking at my limbs and I just wasnāt in control of them at all yet they were still functioning and doing normal actions which was really weird. I almost wanted to keep slapping my forehead to feel more āpresentā almost like Iād zoned out briefly. I think this relates closely to āDepersonalisationā where a person experience a sense of disconnect from their body or a feeling of watching themselves.
It felt like I was sat inside my brain like a visitor but I was looking at myself doing all these things but not really being there, I wasnāt right there in the moment experiencing things. I just donāt feel like Iām in the present and really experiencing things which is quite unsettling and itās so hard to actually sum up what I am experiencing because I canāt liken the experience to anything else. Itās honestly the weirdest thing and doesnāt sound believable when I try and put it into words. I know that I am in control of my body and itās mine but in those moments it really really doesnāt feel like my limbs belong to me in the slightest
I know that dissociating is something that can happen as a way of your body coping with stress, trauma, etc by putting itself into this protective state. Mind (a mental health charity in the UK) has a really informative page on dissociative disorders here which I recommend browsing if you are looking for more info on the topic: More info on Dissociation and Dissociative Disorders from Mind UK
When I experience these feelings of dissociating I try to do some grounding exercises to put me back into the present, hereās an example:
š Acknowledge FIVE things you see around you
ā Acknowledge FOUR things you can touch around you
š Acknowledge THREE things you hear
šAcknowledge TWO things you can smell
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Acknowledge ONE thing you can taste
I’m always happy to chat further in the comments and my social media DM’s, and feel free to share any tips you have in the comments below.