The Constant Autistic Internal Monologue

Hi everyone here again to share another drawing…this time on the ‘Constant Autistic Internal Monologue’ which is something that I experience.

Let me explain it a bit more…I didn’t realise (until literally the day of my autism assessment) that most people don’t have a constantly internal monologue running inside them. I was chatting to my assessor and casually explained that I have this constant running internal monologue inside of me of how to act, be, live, etc. By this I mean a constant voice inside me (that is me, not a separate person) telling me things like:

  • ‘Try and keep eye contact Emily!’ 
  • ‘Maybe sit up straight and try and look a bit more interested?’
  • ‘You might be walking to close…maybe back off a bit?’
  • ‘They might want a handshake? A hug? Be prepared’
  • ‘Does my face look engaged? Is my expression okay?’
  • ‘Am I looking awkward?’
  • ‘You could go sit in the toilet for a bit and decompress?’
  • ‘Did I not talk enough? Did I come across weird?’

(As you can see it can be in a range of person tenses and talks in present and past tense too)

It’s constantly suggesting things to me and is very wary of not fitting in and seeming different. It warns me of things, prompts me to maybe do things which would seem more ‘normal’ and it’s not something I can switch off. I think it is a part of masking but it is not something I cannot drop (v.frustrating). It’s something I have always had, I remember it right the way through school trying to guide me and failing to help me. Also as you can imagine, this continuous internal monologue is taking up a hell of a lot of my brain power and I am dealing with this on a daily basis alongside just existing and juggling things like work and my mental health…which isn’t ideal.

The suggestions aren’t always helpful too which is frustrating because it’s hard to ignore or not listen to them or at least take them on board. I wanted to share this in case it’s something others struggle with too though and because it was something I thought was built into everyone (apparently that’s not the case!).

Hope this all made sense.

Is this something you struggle with too? Let me know in the comments below.

8 thoughts on “The Constant Autistic Internal Monologue

  1. The subtopics around trying to work out when to speak are all present in me. Add in hearing loss and only catching 60% of the words and It’s no wonder I don’t like talking to people.

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  2. I have had the same thing though it’s very difficult to explain to other people what it is like. Most ask if its like someone talking to you? schizophrenia/?psychosis . the best way i have found is to converse with it actively

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  3. I can 100% relate to this & I was not aware it was an autism trait. I do thus ALL the time especially with eye contact & forcing direct eye contact so people “won’t notice something is wrong with me”. I’ve always thought of it as OCD. But now I’m like wait what?

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  4. Yes! This is something I experience as well but it’s a bit different for me. I do experience the “coaching” aspect but mine seemingly narrates my life. Whatever I am thinking, doing or feeling my “narrator” is describing it as it’s happening.

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    1. Hey! I’ve not come across any way to get rid of it – I think forms of distraction might dampen it down a bit and quieten it so it’s more on the background. But for me it comes hand in hand with being autistic, it’s just sort of built in.


  5. I’m currently undiagnosed waiting to get diagnosed this inner monologue is crazy I relate so much every time it happens I’m like for goodness sake because it’s like I’m judging myself and being so critical about every single thing I do.

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    1. Hey – I really hope you don’t have to wait too long for a diagnosis. I’m glad you can relate to my work (although I agree the inner monologue is very frustrating 😭)


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